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ok so i just got in from a so called date with hannah, pardon my typing . spelling im not sober.
ok so so for everyone that cauggt my last post i in love with this girl at work called ahnnah and when i say im mad about her i dont say it lightly i emean i am fooking totaly mental crazy over her. so yesterdy at work i say i think i might get wrecked out my head tonight (meaning really drunk) to which she replied well we could go out for a drink tomorrow if you want. of course i agreed anyway so we are out and drink alot, and havinbg fun and what ever but one time i went to bar for drinks i came bacj she is on phone with he bf, he is worrying that she is doing something wrong. so he fginishes work and turns up. and so there is me and her and her bf enjoying a drink and talking yah its fcked up i know. e ven worse i just got a lift home off him. i lovw her so much and i want to tell her. i know he has hurt her he has cheated on her and had an affair but they are trying to work it out. i have dropped every possibe hint that i am a nbnce person. that im caring, and faithful and all i can do is hope that they part ways and she comes to me. she keeps touching me i could swear she likes me. she has said she wants to make more plans and do things together. even to the point of going to london and goiunjg to art galleries and stuff like that. i so love her. i want to be with her, i love her so myuch it ghurts. whatr shall i do.
ps sorry about typing i can barely see thee screen to make correctionms i thinbik it should be legable for the moist part. and constructive advie would be much appreciated.
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| 11/16/06 17:52 |
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Grif's help, dont drink around her and if you drink, make it no more than 2 (unless 2 gets you drunk then have watered down bourbon).
I had same prob w/ woman who is now my wife. In college we were best friends. The more we hung out the more I fell in love. I wanted to tell her but always fought the urge. She was always going on dates and then had a boyfriend. Each time we would go out/hangout I would get regaled w/ her tales of him/dates/yadda yadda yadda. I was fed up being the friend and decided that I needed to make a stand. I told her how I felt.
She didnt leave him of course but later it came to realization that he was lying and cheating on her. After several months of still just being her friend we eventually started dating. She was relucant at 1st (as she tells me now) but glad she made the choice.
So, cut back on the drinking and as for telling her, that has to be your decision. Thats a long, hard path to travel and you need to be ready to venture what ever comes in the way.
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| 11/16/06 18:24 |
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jinxycat
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ok as for not drinking around her i think thats not possble as i know she wants to go out drinking more and wants to spend more, much more from the sound of it time with me. i just read my post can i get an award for the most typos in a single post?
god i was drunk when i got home i didnt think i was that bad when i was out im not sure if she was or not but we had pretty much the same amount to drink. i cant believe the boyfriend turned up though seriously that was weird.
thanks for advice i think i will lay off telling her for now.
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| 11/17/06 02:34 |
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Dear drinkxycat,
I feel your pain. I can't tell you how many female friends I have that have a-hole boyfriends who cheat on them and lie to them and some that even hit them. People do stupid stuff when they think they're in love. I can't believe some people go back to a person after they've been hit, cheated on, and lied to repeatedly. But it happens.
Your best bet is to hold off for now. Do the friends thing. I'm not sure how old you are, but when women hit a certain age, they go for a different type of person. When they're in high school and college, they want looks, fun, and good times. When they get a little older, they see who'll really make a good other half: the ones who don't cheat, don't lie, and definately don't get drunk off their @$$ on a constant basis.
Like Grif said, don't get completely smashed when you're going out with her. You'll lose what control you have. You're more apt to do/say something stupid, let something happen that shouldn't, or forget something important. You're the one who's trying to change things so you're going to need to have the advantage. If you're the one who she goes to to talk to, the better off you'll be if you can remember what she talks about and be responsible enough to always do the right thing. When she comes to the realization that she's with a jerk, she'll remember who was always there to listen, to go out with, and to be the good person.
Don't wait forever to say something, but just remember that there's a right time for everything, and situations like these need to be handled very delicately.
That said, good luck and the Ampers are here for you.
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| 11/17/06 03:16 |
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jinxycat
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ok im 22 she is 23, dunno how old he is but he looks about same age. god last night was weird. can you imagine sitting their having a drink with a girl your crazy about, having a laugh. her bf had called a bunch of times during, although he knew she was out with me. and wondering who i was from the sound of it. then at about 10pm ish he turns up. smile on his face and says alright mate or something like that. then we all sit down and have a nice chat. talk about uncomfortable. its a good job i was drunk. although i wasnt that bad until i went outside. and worse when i got home. i think i need help.
*curls up into a ball*
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| 11/17/06 06:01 |
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Unrequited love. Joy.
Unfortunately, you're the "other guy". She's likely not going to be able to deal with "being with you" until she figures out for herself that he's an @$$. If she can't figure it out based on what you've said, then she's either in denial or not the sharpest knife in the untensil drawer.
My advice, stay friends with her, but try distancing yourself from her. Also, like Grif said, don't get all sloppy drunk around her. A couple drinks here and there are good, but don't get all messy.
Also, suggestion for drinking, if you're having mixed drinks, Malibu Rum is only 42 proof as opposed to most other liquors which are 80 proof, so twice as many drinks in the same amount of time are required to get you drunk. Malibu and Coke (or diet coke) is a really tasty drink that won't mess you way up.
Best of luck to you.
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| 11/17/06 06:26 |
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Man, all these drinking tips we're throwing around...
Its a shame I don't drink. I'd put some of 'em to use (especially that Drunken Watermelon Salad)...
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| 11/17/06 07:05 |
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we were mixing drinks all night hehe, and how do you mean 80 proof, dunno if its american or what ever, but we go on percentage of alcohol here, to which most vodka is 37.5. most other spirits are 40 malibu is 20 i believe which i would just drinnk neat. same with baileys. mmmm baileys.
so last night i had beer. cocktail jamaican dusk i believe. sambuca, various other things, she had same but no beer hehe.
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| 11/17/06 09:45 |
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Well, you've got a friend and a co-worker. You're nuts for her, you think she *might* like you, too, but you're not sure. If you tell her how you feel and find out you were way off base in assuming she has feelings for you, then you've lost a friend and work just got a little uncomfortable for awhile.
On the other hand, you could always just stay on the sidelines leaving your future up to the jerk boyfriend and end up making drunken posts on GameAmp. :P
And what is all this nonsense about laying off the alcohol? Booze is the lubrication of love. Maybe if the inhibitions are lowered you can get into a conversation that invades territory you haven't covered. If that conversation doesn't go well, you can always blame it on the alcohol the next morning.
I picture a conversation like this...You are at the bar having drinks. B/F calls (again!).
You: Man, that guy seems pretty insecure. Is he afraid you're gonna do something he doesn't want you to do?
Hannah: I don't know, maybe.
You: So are you? *sly smile*
Hannah: Maybe... *smile*
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| 11/17/06 11:51 |
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Well...I can't really say much about the situation besides the boyfriend. I completely understand why the guy showed up. It's the 'ole "I got you, now you're going to get me" thing. Since the cat obviously cheated on his girl, his anxiety about her cheating on him is heightened. Expect to become his enemy very quickly. He might sit in front of you and act like you're his boy, but it's just so he can keep tabs on you. When you know someone, he expects that the "bond of friendship" will keep you from taking his girl. Just thought I'd make you aware of that dynamic.
As for the girl, there's never any telling. Women are very different creatures from men. Every guy that's seen you with her probably knows that you're into her, and she might not recognize it. Even when you think there's no possible way that she couldn't know, she still might not know. I think that women create blinders for themselves to help them cope with the idea that 99.9% of all males are trying to have relations with them. It's how we're made...It's completely natural. I'm thinking that we were created to be horrible, sex-driven beasts, and they were created to completely ignore it. Ah...The wonders of the natural world...
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| 11/17/06 12:42 |
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| QUOTE | | he expects that the "bond of friendship" will keep you from taking his girl |
ok just to clarify about the boy. i dont know him. i have seen him with her in the shop a few times when she was on her dinner break. i served him in the shop once. and actually met him properly for the 1st time last night.
yes i agree he was both checking up on her. and i believe on me too. summing me up i guess. but i dont know him and in the right situation i have no problem her leaving him for me. if she made a move i would not say no. and if she confronts me asking me if i like her i will have no choice but to tell her the truth. cos if i say i didnt like her when she asked it could lead to nothing ever happened.
although saying i do have feelings for her could have the same effect if she feels differently but its a risk i would have to take. if she asks that is. im gonna see her at work tomorrow. also we are in textual contact. and even on my space. but she aint logged on that for a week. i need to resolve this or at least get into some sort of safe zone and soon cos i think i am on the verge of a mental breakdown i really am. i cant take much more of this. if i didnt have city of heroes to play to take my mind off it. and this forum to vent on i think it would have cracked me by now. while im on that i would like to thank everyone for any comments they have made and even just for having read this. i mean just having a place to write all this down is good but people replying is better. thanks all.
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| 11/17/06 13:08 |
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Warning: Things I would do should not be done by others with out the proper attitude.
That being said, this is what I would do.
I'd walk into work tomorrow and when I was talking to her I would say,"Wow, the other night was crazy wasn't it?"then"but I had fun."
Then she would say,"Yeah, so did I."
Then in a almost joking voice (but not really joking) I would say,"but your BF sure was being a clock smith." But I'm so good with L's if ya know what I'm saying.
This ends the "This is what I would do" portion of todays show.
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| 11/17/06 13:59 |
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And about the proof thing Jinxy, the proof is double the percentage rating. 200 prrof is pure alcohol. 100 proof is 50%, 80 proof is 40%.
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| 11/17/06 16:19 |
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| 11/17/06 16:40 |
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ok so i have work with her tomorrow. im sure and im also hoping i will have something to say about the day when i get back so you all have something to look forward to reading. she said in a text she was angry and pissed at mark (her bf) although i may have been too drunk to notice. either way i bet i have been the topic of discussion. makes me wonder what was said about me hehe. oh well.
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| 11/17/06 20:28 |
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I would love to help you mate... but I'm in a love crisis myself atm, problem is that I'd make no chance
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