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jinxycat
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ok guys long over due update, as you all know by know im in love. and it wasnt going well.
ok so today i was going mental (yes again) and was contemplatiing telling her exactly how i feel. i couldnt do it. but i did on the way home write a 4 page long text message telling her how i feel. telling her why i hadnt told her until now. and that i dont want it to ruin our friendship it was very detailed. just got one back goes as follows.
"thank you for saying that it must have been hard. no i dont want it to ruin our friendship but you must know that even though he can be a bas*ard i love mark (her bf) very much i am sorry. 2 be honest it is hard to believe anybody ould feel like that about me as i hate my self so much. but thank you, dont hate me please.
now it took me 10 mins of preperation after i got the message before reading it. i dont know what to say now. it could have gone alot worse i think.
additional. she didint in her message say she didnt, wouldnt, couldnt like me in that way at all. just that she loved mark. could that mean i do have a shot should they part ways.?
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| 11/25/06 13:19 |
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Str0ker
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You get me his address and I can make the problem disappear. I know people in shady places.
Just kidding.
No, but Seriously.
Ok, really. Just send he another text saying thats cool, best of luck, and do want to go see that new _____ movie? Just play it off like it's no big thing, and wait it out.
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| 11/25/06 13:39 |
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jinxycat
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no big deal, i told her i havnt stopped thinking about her in 2 weeks, i have literally confessed all.
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| 11/25/06 14:02 |
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Your Screwed. No seriously whatever you do, don't make it an issue of "Him" or "you". You know who will win that battle. Stay the course. Reasure her that you are not going anywhere you will continue to be her friend. Also remind continue to remind her of all her great qualites and that she has no reason to hate herself. Just from what she said to you, sounds like she has Self estem issues and the best thing you can do is to help her build herself back up. And if this Mark is part of the reason she has self estem issues, all the more reason for your continued friendship. Be there for her and you never know, one day she might get her self estem back and realize that "Mark" is out and that you've been there all along.
I know this is none of my business but is she in an abusive relationship? or is the Mark guy a jerk as she says?
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| 11/25/06 14:38 |
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Bubba...The best thing to do is to stay away from this girl. Don't worry about the intracacies of her relationship, spending more time together to work yourself in, or any of the other strategies that are common in the average love triangle. You should simply distance yourself from the situation. I completely understand that this is much easier said than done, but it's for the best. The longer that you stay in this position, you'll be setting yourself up for much worse results. There's no telling what could happen. Believe me...Women have the ability to ruin a man's life faster than anything else in existence. Thank this chick for her time, create an account on Match.com or its British equivalent, and start playing the field. If she has a change of heart, then you can reevaluate the situation. Otherwise, it's just going to spiral downhill. Good luck.
Malady
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| 11/25/06 14:53 |
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jinxycat
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ok as for the none of your business thing, if i didnt want everyones opinion i wouldnt be posting here. she has a condition called body dismorphic dissorder. and thus hates her self. i told her in my text i love everything about her. hence her message. ok as for mark. bottom line she said he is a bas*ard at times. also he cheated on her. thats all i need to know. cheated = hes a ****. i will be there for her. she said she dont want it to affect our friendship so i will go on as though nothing happend uptil she brings it up. i will just play it by ear now and wait i guess she how it goes. but at least its out in the open now. its like someone just lifted a planet off my back.
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| 11/25/06 14:58 |
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Detra
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| QUOTE | Bubba...The best thing to do is to stay away from this girl. Don't worry about the intracacies of her relationship, spending more time together to work yourself in, or any of the other strategies that are common in the average love triangle. You should simply distance yourself from the situation. I completely understand that this is much easier said than done, but it's for the best. The longer that you stay in this position, you'll be setting yourself up for much worse results. There's no telling what could happen. Believe me...Women have the ability to ruin a man's life faster than anything else in existence. Thank this chick for her time, create an account on Match.com or its British equivalent, and start playing the field. If she has a change of heart, then you can reevaluate the situation. Otherwise, it's just going to spiral downhill. Good luck.
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I agree w/ a lot that was said here. Note: Everything I am about to say is just my option and/ or my experience.
I have lost some good friendships because of either I or the other party have feelings that were stronger than the others, and made my miserable wanting...hoping...almost expecting that something would change. In my head everything seemed logical..the other persons signifant other was a jerk...they cheated...they lied... they were in it for the persons money..they did this and that. And here I am, I have so much love and caring for this person, they should be w/ me. Tell ya what happen while waiting. I felt like I was beating my head against a brick wall time & time again.
Everytime something would happen here I was the person who would listen..(( now looking back on it..it was so much bullshit ))..the comforting one. So what did this make me feel like?? In my head I was mostly screaming...."why why, why are you still w/ them..I can love you.. I can care for you in ways they cant, or wont. But you know what happen after all that comforting and almost feeling like something was going to happen. It didnt, 9 times outta 10, they always went back to the jerk..to the cheater, the liar. You know how I felt..Angry..Sad..in ways I see now I was slowly tearing myself down inside and out. I was becoming depreseed. I missed a lot time feeling this way..It lead me to drinking...becoming detached.. etc.
I have learned over the years. I can only be responible for my own actions. I need to keep my side of the street clean.
I am powerless over people, places and things. Most of all people. Being honest is good. Be honest to be just that honest w/ yourself, and not in the expecations to get something in return. Again 9-outta 10 times, you will get let down if you are expecting something from someone else.
A line I use today. "Before i would lead a horse to water, I would knock it down, stratle the head, pry its mouth ope and make the water run in it mouth. Today, If need be I will lead the horse to water, if it choses not to drink, that is not my worry, I have done what I can, I may walk away grumbling something under my breathe, but I am a lot more happier...healthier, and wiser because I can let go and remember, I can only be responsbile for me.
Speaking of drinking. I seen in another post you 2 like to go drinking.. I dont know about anyone else, but you put some liquid courage in me.. and damn!!! I just popped my moment of glory power. And much like MoG, after it wears off, theres not a lot left, execept a lot of destruction in my path, and myself feeling empty.
Sorry this turned out so long, I hope it helps.
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| 11/26/06 02:26 |
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jinxycat
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thanks all for your advice, and dont worry about long posts i like reading long posts as long as they are interestng and well er intellegent to some degree. you will notice that mine are rarely short either.
i actually said in my original message that i didnt expect anything from it. it was just to get it out in the open. and i have. now i have a message currently pending. i expect one between around 12 - 2 as she is working today ad im not, dinner on a sunday is around then. i just said i hope this wont make things weird as i like having her as a friend, and i do very much, i will wait for her now though see where it goes. all i can do is hope she either comes to me, or i find someone else i can love. i wont see her again now til wednesday. but we will hopefully be in touch.
thanks again everyone for listening.
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| 11/26/06 05:17 |
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Amadaeus
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Before I give my 2 cents, I didn't read any of the other posts as I'm too lazy at the moment to do so, so sorry if someone's already said what I'm about to.
The way I see it, you have a big decision to make:
Either wait to out to see if those two break up, or just distance yourself in that respect asap.
If you don't think they're going to break up anytime soon, then it'll be hard, but I say don't bother waiting and save yourself some trouble. Don't wanna shut yourself off to other potential girlfriends out there, which is more or less what you'd be doing by waiting. Keep in mind that love is illogical.
Now, if in your heart of hearts you truely believe there's a good chance they'll break up relatively soon, then you can try your luck and wait it out. Let me stress again that I don't recommend this unless you're very sure this would happen.
One thing you can do either way is be her listening ear when/if she needs to vent or talk about something, dealing with him or otherwise. This would accomplish three things: 1. if she does break up with him, there's a chance she'd look to you, since she already knows you care enough about her to listen; but more importantly 2. that you still value her as a friend even if she doesn't return your feelings; and 3. it'll make you feel good about yourself that you're helping her in such a big way.
Just offer her your services as a listener if you catch her being down about something, from the sounds of things she could use it from time to time (heck, we all can).
**edit** I unlazied myself long enough to backread, and it seems I've unknowingly pretty much summed up every other post there. Oh well, guess that means my advise is good then. =P From the sounds of things you know what you're doing, so I say stay with the course you're on until something changes.
Good luck!
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