what's The Best Way Of Not Being Nervous or embarrassed?
Is there anything you can do to stop yourself getting nervous or recovering from it?
is there a way of not going red?
is there things you can do to when your being embarrassed that can help you feel normal again and ignore people embarrassing you?
Not that I mind offering advice and all, but you do know that this is the City of Heroes fansite on gameamp right? :)
Anyway, embarassment is kind of a big, normal, thing for a teenager. You're at an awkward age. Bottom line of it all is that you can only get embarassed if you let yourself get embarassed. Do things periodically that you wouldn't normally do. (Nothing bad or illegal!) But things like public speaking. If you're a church go-er you might consider doing a reading there (talk to the priest or pastor to see if you can). Singing Karaoke was a big thing that helped me "come out of my shell", however that's usually an "at a bar" thing which you shouldn't be doing as a teenager. :)
Anyway, I hope that helps...and Welcome to Gameamp!
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RE: Easily embarrassed young-teen
idk cuz im STILL a teen (almost 15).
but i dont think doing it in your pants is the best idea;)
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Alright with the greeting out of the way, here is my take on this topic.
Each person has a different personality and deals with this feeling differently. So, first off, don't compare yourself to others around you. That person may be better at not showing embarrassment but may be horrible at speaking. Everyone has things that they are better at then others. The trick is to learn behaviors and thoughts that can help you in these situations.
If I can give one great trick to help you with this, it would be this...
You have to truly like who you are as you are, and not care about what others think about you. That is a major key to being able to do things without showing that embarrassment.
This is coming from personal experience here. If you start caring about what others are going to think and say about you, your mind and body start focusing on all the bad possibilities and your embarrassment rises. If you can learn to be happy with whom you are and how you are acting, those feeling aren't in your mind.
Now... unfortunately, as a teenager, your view of yourself tends to be focused on how you think others see you or what you think they think about you. There are those that don't seem to care what others think about them and they act crazy or are the lead in the school play, or the class clown. That confidence tends to make people just accept their wackyness and they want to be friends with them.
As you grow up and mature, you will begin to realize that as long as your true friends, your family, and eventually your girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband, love you, it won't matter as much what others think.
For instance, you will learn that you are accepted here at this site for who you are... you don't have to try to wow us and show us how awesome you are. Show respect and treat others with kindness and you can be yourself here without embarrassment or fear. We will quickly learn just how awesome you are.
Eventually, you can get that same feeling with those that are close to you. And when those people are around your embarrassment fades away.
Good luck and know that it does get easier as you get older... I know that doesn't always help to hear that now though.
Welcome to the site, and Dang! Pretty brave post for someone who wonders about being embarrased. I guess the distance of a forum blog does give you some safety/security to ask the question. I was horribly shy when I went to school, so I feel your pain.
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what's The Best Way Of Not Being Nervous or embarrassed?
Swiss covered most of that. You'll be selfconsios about a lot of stuff while your body is in hormone overdrive in the teen years. It's best not to dwell on how to NOT be nervous or embarassed, it's best to work on acceptance. You know that you are in the early stages of life, there will be mistakes to be made, and in many cases, others will see em.
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Is there anything you can do to stop yourself getting nervous or recovering from it?
Remember that most others in your age bracket feel the exact same way you do. Some blush, others lash out to embarass others so they do not feel alone in their pain.
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is there a way of not going red?
Think about baseball. Trust me, this will come in handy for some other stuff along the way too. (Try not to think about it, you'll blush again.....) The harder you try not to blush, the redder your face and ears will get. Don't try to stop it yourself, just roll with the blush.
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is there things you can do to when your being embarrassed that can help you feel normal again and ignore people embarrassing you?
Humor and acceptance. It always helps if you can laugh it off. The phrase "Man, that was stupid!" and a little laugh works wonders(I still use it). That will have everyone laughing with you again, and not nessasarily at you. But you have to laugh at yourself too. If you have a bully always trying to embarras you, they are very insecure themselves. To stop a bully don't give him what he wants. Turn red and point it out to everyone. And after a while, what they were doing won't embarass you, you'll just see how lame it is. So will everyone else.
I'm 40 years old and I still get embarassed. I'm shy(especially around women) and very selfconsious about my own flaws but have learned to accept and laugh off most of them. I've got a light complection, so you can see me blush in the next county.
If you get embarassed by someone else, say you get pants'ed in from of the girls swim team..... Wink, snap your fingers and point to the cutest one on the team and say "Hey beby!" in your best Bevis and Butthead voice. What the hell, you got nothin to lose. Then get those shorts up ASAP!
Really, just knowing that everyone else around you is as apprehensive and self consious is a big help. Laugh it off. Humor is the cure for so many things.
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Most of the successful businesspeople in Western Civilization, were geeks.
So if that's what you're nervous and embarassed about, CHEERS! :)
The point is, forget what other people think, focus on yourself, your school, your confidence and your life. Get yourself into a college, it doesn't have to be Oxford, Harvard or Brown, but get a degree in something you'll love.
Also...wear sunscreen. :) (Any geeks from my era will know what I'm talking about)
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i know what ur going threw b/c im a teen and im well biger than most kids and when ever some one makes a fat joke i usually laugh along and are like ahhh so true and that usually stops them from sayin any thing more or they make more jokes and ill laugh along i dont really care about what people think i have a lot of friends and in then end thats all that really matters is that ur happy with ur self. but u have to learn to like ur self and be happy with who u are and dont let other ppl put u down if u do they will just keep doing it. some advise i have is dont listen to what ppl say and just go on nut if i gets really bad just break there noise i bet they wont say any thing to u ever agin i not just call me ill come down there and beat um up LOL
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Alright now it's a new issue. I just got a girlfriend and I haven't had one since 3rd grade. For some reason I'm really shy around her. Any help on this?
First off: You didn't have a girlfriend in 3rd grade. You had a friend who was a girl.
As for what to do, go to movies, watch TV, go to Starbucks, hang out like you would with a friend. DON'T GROW UP TOO FAST! You don't need to be doin anything "adult".
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just relax and be yourself around her....you'll get more comfortable together as you spend more time around each other....enjoy your teen years and don't be in a hurry to grow up...you'll miss those years when they're gone
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